Friday, January 22, 2010

Looking for a full-time job is a sucky, soul-crushing full-time job!

It's been over 2 months since I've managed this blog space. I haven't looked at it. I haven't planned any posts or giveaways. I haven't even been checking the replies. "Why" you ask? Well let me start off by stating one terrifying fact that has smacked me in the face multiple times in the past 2 months...

Looking for a full-time job IS a full-time job!

It's also energy-sucking, stressful, ego-smashing, depressing, and soul-crushing. It's enough to send the strongest, most capable worker scuttling off to a lonesome corner to curl up in the fetal position and stuff Ben & Jerry's in their face. It sucks! And I'm not usually one to complain... seriously... ask my friends.

That being said, there comes a time when a girl has to pull herself up by her bra strap and take a hard look at the ashy, hair-uncombed, crusty-eyed face in the mirror and woman-up. And here's the lesson... feeling sorry for oneself not only doesn't do any good, but it's a mean, ugly cycle. You get down one day and the next day and the next and pretty soon you can't be bothered with any of the days. It's a scary place. Don't go there. And THAT being said, here are

Mommy B's Top 5 Tips for staying sane, presentable and in non-suicidal spirits during this sucky time of few jobs and fewer prospects

1. DO NOT ... I repeat ... DO NOT sit on the computer all day!
Yes, it's tempting to stay online all day looking and applying for jobs, but DON'T! Before you know it, it's 5 o'clock and you're still sitting at the computer in your pajamas and woolly socks with coffee-stains all over your shirt wondering where the day went because now it's dark outside.

2. Get some exercise!
You know the drill: endorphins, more energy, better attitude, blah blappity blah... who cares! All you need to know is that it feels good to burn off some of that energy that you're just wasting by sitting at home, worrying about finding work. DO IT!

3. Get some air!
Go for a walk. Mail a letter. Run some errands. Hit the mall -- of course you can't buy anything, but it's a nice change of scenery isn't it? Getting out of that house for a little while breaks up the day and makes you feel like you accomplished something. And it will do you some good to catch some fresh air and sunshine.

4. Keep some semblance of a regular routine!
When you're accustomed to getting up and going to work every day and then suddenly you don't have to do that anymore, it's not an easy transition. Yeah, it's nice to think that you'll be able to sleep in, take it easy, and catch up on your stories, but c'mon. Really? ... Really? Who's doing that and actually feeling good about it? Show of hands? ... I thought so. Once that first bill comes in after the severance is gone, you're not gonna to feel so relax-y. Create a routine for yourself... it will keep you from going insane. Mine is:
  1. Get kids off to school.
  2. Go to gym.
  3. Run errands.
  4. Look for job.
  5. Pick up youngest from bus.
  6. Get dinner started.
Of course it varies from day to day (and I usually find myself online looking for work again after the kids go to bed) but it's a base I try to stick with. It's keeping me sane so I won't mess with it.

5. Keep your head up!
Things will get better (I truly believe that). Don't lose touch with your old work friends. Most are probably in the same boat and you can share advice and stories. Go to lunch (a cheap one). Have a drink once in a while (a cheap one) and try to find the humor in this situation (like how is anyone supposed to survive on a $300 weekly unemployment check in the metro NY area? HHHAHHAHAHAHAHA!!!) because if we don't laugh we'll all certainly be crying. Hard!

This post was much longer than I intended. I just wanted to drop a note as to why I haven't posted in 2 months, but look at that! It turned into so much more! And it's made me realize how much I miss blogging. I'll do my best to start getting our standard Reign fodder up asap. There's way to much going on in the world of girl empowerment to ignore.

See you soon and Happy New Year!!


Justice Ny said...

You've got the best attitude! I was in your shoes last year just about this time and your 5-steps are exactly what got me through. As hard as it seems, it's really a blessing in disguise; there are opportunities opening up every day (albeit, they may not be financial) but there are little things every day that you will cherish.

Alicia Booker said...

I loved this piece. I am currently working, but I get what you are saying. Exercise and a routine are good whether you are working or looking for work. Please continue to blog, which will also give you a sense of purpose...Good luck and keep your head up!

You may also enjoy my blog...give it a visit if you get some time...I posted your blog on mine...

petrenkov said...

Rather cool blog you've got here. Thanx for it. I like such topics and everything that is connected to them. I would like to read a bit more soon.

Truly yours
Timm Clade

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The Adventures of Princess Zaria said...

Many people have asked me about how I landed several jobs that I've had with no college experienced. I volunteered. People don't want to hear work for free but that's how you get your foot in the door sometimes. Find a nonprofit organization that you like in your area. Call to see if they utilize volunteers(they do) and spend 2-4 hours a week there. When there is a job opening, who do they think they will call first. Just a thought. Good luck to you:)

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