- the what-eveeeerrr tone
- the I-am-11-years-old-and-I-know-everything smart-Alec reflex
- the eyeball rolling
- and of course the ever present, If-it-doesn't-concern-me,-it's-probably-not-really-that-important-anyway syndrome
This wasn't an issue when I was a preteen. When my mom said "jump", I said "how high?" Of course, I would be thinking some really nasty stuff in my head, but it would never pass my lips; not if I valued my lips... or my life.
My daughter is not outrageously disrespectful or anything, but the child does have a mouth on her. And at times, she doesn't seem to know when to keep that mouth shut, but does that mean that I'm not doing a good job as a mom?
Well, it's true that I would have never spoken to my mother the way my daughter talks to me sometimes (whether it's playful talk or serious sass), BUT at the same time, I also was never comfortable enough with my mother to go to her when I had big questions or a serious problem. And I had some pretty serious issues as a young teen. I also realize that not speaking my mind (i.e. keeping my mouth shut a little too much) is part of the reason that I had some of those serious issues.
I think my daughter realizes that she can talk to me about anything, because I try to keep our communication as open as possible. I also know that that girl will not have any issues telling her peers, a boyfriend, or anyone else "NO" when she's asked to do something she's not completely comfortable with. So if dealing with a bit of a smart mouth means that she will come to me with real issues or speak her mind even when it's not easy, I'll take it.
Eyeball rolling though....that's a WHOLE other story.