It's natural for us to look at the children in our lives and evaluate the paths they're taking…
Whether they're making good or bad decisions.
Whether their friends are good kids or little jerks.
Whether they're moving in the right direction or headed toward a bad place.
Not only is it a part of our built-in Mama-instinct to assess what's going on, but we've also "been there/done that" and can make comparisons based on our own experiences growing up.
Of course, offering advice to a tween or teen is sort of like trying to feed oatmeal to a rock, but we do our best to guide them in the right direction.
Maybe the old saying "Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself." is true. Our good advice may be right on point, but ultimately our kids need to make their own mistakes, learn from them, and move on… just like we did.
Actually, the people who would really benefit from our advice would be us…when we were young girls. So if you could go back to visit yourself when you were 12-years old, what advice would you give that girl?
I would tell 12-year old Mommy B:
• that her body was precious and perfect, just the way it was
• that her real power lay in her mind and heart, not in her looks
• that she was smarter and stronger than anyone could ever imagine
• that the emotions she felt and the words she spoke were valuable and important
• and that she didn’t need the approval of others to do well
Would she listen? That's the million dollar question.